Your inner self is talking to you.
Bijgewerkt: 1 dec 2020
Learn how to talk back.
As part of a series, I've been talking about self-care, and how to go beyond self-care in the form of taking baths and eating right.
In short, so far I've explained that your mental state can depend on your inner self, and your environment. Your environment can make you sick, and what that exactly entails you can read here.
Your inner self does not make you sick or better, but rather is a part of you that you're usually not aware of, and can help you understand why you do what you do and why you feel what you feel. Read more about that here.
Although these practices so far might seem spiritual, psychology and spirituality are closer related than you think, and you don't need to believe in anything non-physical to understand or benefit from the things I've told you so far. I want this series to be approachable for anyone, no matter what they believe and despite the roots of my ideas.
I've explained to you who the inner self is, I've explained how exactly it communicates. I believe connecting with your inner self is a big step in practicing self-care as a foundation. It helps you understand your needs, it helps you understand your thoughts, your actions, it can help you eliminate the variables of life that prevent you from living in a way you prefer. But what I've explained so far won't make sense until you start experiencing it. Here is how to reconnect.
1. Listen to your body.
This doesn't directly connect you to your inner self, but trains you to pick up on the signals it gives.
Your inner self is an instinct, and speaks the language your body communicated with perfectly well. You're not "just" low on energy, tired or not feeling well, it means something. When I don't feel well, I just think to myself "I could really use a..." and I end up thinking about what it is I'm lacking. Say yes to what you're craving. Have that extra sandwich, take that nap. How you feel after that, the response you get from answering your body, will help you feel connected.
An advice as old as the internet, but every time it is mentioned, it has a different function. When we meditate in silence, you can feel intrusive thoughts. Meditating helps because you finally give yourself time to let everything that swims through your brain come out and be dealt with. Most of these forceful thoughts can seem scary and are usually things you don't mean. Most of the time, we're taught to ignore them and just let them go away. But, if you're ready for it, listen to these thoughts. Put them in a row, make sense out of them. The inner self has a way to make random things mean something.
3. Get rid of ad overload in your daily life.
Advertisement is a vital part of our modern day economy, but it gets a little much sometimes. Try spending one day counting the amount of ads you see. It takes a lot for your inner self to be overwhelmed, but advertisement is designed to change how you feel. There is a science behind how subliminal messages change what you think you need, and even if your inner self may not fall for it, it might screw with how you interpret the inner self. The act of actively avoiding advertisement, even if you can't, will train your filter to separate relevant information from advertisement information, and will clean up the interaction.
4. Pay attention to your dreams.
I know, dreams? Odds are you don't even dream that often. Everyone dreams averagely five times per night, some just remember more than others. Most people only remember one dream at most. Did I ever mention I remember four or five dreams per night? I can name you ten of my most terrifying nightmares that I had before the age of ten. I am an extreme, that amount of dreaming is overwhelming and shouldn't be a goal. I believe that how much you remember, is partly due to a choice from your unconscious inner self. Wen you're more willing to communicate with that part, the dreams might become more memorable.
Do dreams mean something? Not always, as far as science has accepted, dreams are some sort off by-product from the brain's efforts to process gathered information. However, which information is expressed in those dreams, how the pieces are "logicked" together, and which you remember, could be filtered by the inner self. Meaning, if you have the same dream a few times, I dare to say someone is trying to tell you something. Observing patterns, meanings behind objects and a developing dream environment can become a common language between you and your inner self. Should you involve external dream interpretation sources? You could. If you've read a book about what objects in dreams mean, that information has been fed to your inner self and it could use it to interact back, knowing that it is how you might intepret an object or image. If you dream something, and you google the meaning, odds are you might have seen that source before, and that it is not a coincidence you picked that particular book or link to look at.
This is another reason why it is so important to get some grip on the information you get.
The only thing to be cautious about if you use external sources to interpret dream meanings, is that some books and websites base their interpretation on religious mythology, a school of thought or range of symbolism that you may or may not have any relationship with. For instance, if you're a practicing christian, interpretations based on the bible (which is common on these sites) might be a great fit. Even some pagans see sense in what the bible says about some symbols. Some websites base their database on Freud's observations and other big names in the world of psychology, and some create one based completely on their own ideas. You can easily learn the unique language between you and the inner self all by yourself, whatever you feel suits you best. You'll feel it if it makes sense.
5. Write down how you feel.
Your thoughts are never truly random. If you can't figure something out, write everything down that comes to mind. The more you write down, the more you get back from yourself, the easier you might discover a pattern in the thoughts that you have. These patterns, much like the dreams, will eventually form a language between you and your inner self. If the answer is within your inner self, you will eventually write it down, because you'll want to. It's like when you can't make a decision so you toss a coin. When the coin decides and you feel dissapointed with the answer, it tells you the real answer. When you follow these steps, overtime you will notice a change. Thoughts, dreams, signs and behaviours that you believed were random or meaningless, start to make sense. Repetition is an indicator of direction, variables are guiding signals, and although it may take a while, experiencing this kind of control brings you back in touch with your emotions, making them easier to deal with. In future posts I will tell you how my interpretation of selfcare helped me heal from my burnout, and how they can help you reduce your stress and make the emotional part of life easier. And no, I'm not talking about eliminating emotions, but rather becoming okay with them again. We've become focused on controlling our emotions so that getting upset doesn't get in the way of our job or makes someone else uneasy. It's come to a point where our emotions are an inconvience to us, but they are only that because we forgot how to properly deal with them. Stick around to get deeper into this! Love, Terri x